I've changed my mind

I actually think those words can take quite a lot of courage to say.

I know I’ve sometimes stayed with a decision longer than I needed to, simply because I’d already committed to it.

I’d told people.

I’d invested time in it.

I’d convinced myself it was the right thing to do.

And changing my mind could feel like admitting I’d got it wrong.

But I’ve come to see it differently.

We make decisions with the information, experience and perspective we have at the time.

Then things change.

We change.

We learn something new.

Sometimes we simply get honest with ourselves about something we’ve been feeling for a while.

That doesn’t necessarily mean the original decision was wrong.

It means it was right then.

I think there’s something quite freeing about knowing we can revisit our choices.

We don’t have to keep doing something just because we once decided to.

We can pause, reassess and choose again.

I’m increasingly comfortable with that.

Not because I make perfect decisions — far from it.

But because I trust myself a little more to recognise when something no longer fits.

And perhaps that’s the important bit.

Changing your mind isn’t always a failure to commit. Sometimes it’s a sign that you’re listening to yourself.

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Sometimes we don’t need another answer - we need to be heard!

There is a particular kind of relief that comes from being able to speak openly — without having to make your thoughts sound logical, positive or resolved.

To say:

“I don’t know.”

“I’m not sure why I feel like this.”

“Part of me wants this, but another part doesn’t.”

“I’ve never said this out loud before.”

And not immediately be met with advice.

Because when someone listens without rushing to fix, judge or redirect us, something interesting can happen.

We hear ourselves differently.

The things that felt tangled begin to separate.

What seemed like a problem sometimes turns out to be something else entirely.

And occasionally, something emerges that we couldn’t have reached by thinking harder on our own.

For me, this is one of the most powerful aspects of coaching.

Not giving someone the answer.

Not telling them what they should do.

Creating enough space for them to hear what is already trying to emerge.

There is power in being genuinely listened to.

And sometimes, that is where the real work begins.

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What if the story you’ve been telling yourself is no longer true?

We all develop stories about ourselves.

“I’m not good at that.”

“I’ve always been the one who holds everything together.”

“That’s just how I am.”

“I need to be more confident before I do it.”

“I’ve never been someone who…”

Some of these stories may have been useful once.

They may have helped us make sense of an experience, protect ourselves, or navigate a particular stage of life.

But a story can outlive the circumstances that created it.

And sometimes, without realising it, we continue living according to an old version of ourselves.

That doesn’t mean the story was wrong.

It may simply mean it’s no longer the whole story.

Coaching can create the space to question the assumptions we’ve stopped noticing - and explore what might be possible when we see ourselves differently.

Not by pretending the past didn’t happen.

But by recognising that it doesn’t have to define what happens next.

Which story about yourself might be ready to be rewritten?

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Knowing isn’t always the same as being ready

Sometimes we already know.

We know the conversation needs to happen.

We know something has to change.

We know what we want to say.

We even know what the next step should be.

And yet, we don’t take it.

It’s easy to label that as procrastination, lack of confidence or simply “not getting on with it.”

But sometimes there’s something else going on.

Part of us may understand the decision intellectually, while another part is still catching up.

Because change isn’t always about finding the right answer.

Sometimes it’s about becoming ready to act on the answer we already have.

That can take honesty.

It can take time.

And it can take a willingness to look beneath the surface of what we’re telling ourselves.

Coaching isn’t always about helping someone discover something they didn’t know.

Sometimes it’s about creating the space to recognise what they already know — and understand what’s getting in the way of acting on it.

The question isn’t always “What do I need to know?”

Sometimes it’s:

“What do I already know, but haven’t yet allowed myself to act on?”

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You can care without carrying everything

It’s an easy distinction to miss.

You can care deeply about your work, your team, your family, your clients or the people around you … without taking responsibility for every outcome.

Sometimes we step in because we want to help.

Sometimes because we know we can make things easier.

And sometimes, without realising it, we start carrying things that were never ours to carry in the first place.

Being supportive doesn’t mean solving everything.

Being a good leader doesn’t mean having all the answers.

And being a caring person doesn’t mean constantly putting yourself last.

There is strength in knowing where your responsibility ends — and allowing others to carry theirs.

That isn’t detachment.

It’s a boundary.

And sometimes, a very healthy one.

#Leadership #Boundaries #Coaching #SelfAwareness #PersonalGrowth